Woah what a week!
I shan’t bore you with the details, but suffice to say it’s been an emotional few days here at Lovefit HQ.
Yesterday I posted the below photo, along with the attached comment, on social media:
It clearly resonated with a lot of people. And the thing is, my words could be applied to anything; not just parenting.
“This too shall pass” is relevant to each and every one of us, regardless of whether you have children or not. It’s an acknowledgment of the fact that life, in its very essence, is full of ups and downs.
There are good bits and bad bits.
Laugh out loud moments and silent tears.
Successes and failures.
I was chatting to a client the other day and she said “I just feel like I’m not winning.” Two weeks prior she’d been positively buoyant; delighting in her improved posture, diligently doing her homework, and feeling good. We talked about what had changed, and worked together to find a solution. I explained that it’s totally normally to experience these ups and downs with training. Whether your goal is to get faster, reduce pain, lose weight, or rehab post-birth, there will always be bumps in the road. The key is not to view these bumps as a derailment, and instead accept them as part of the journey. Sounding too cheesy now? Sorry, but you know what I mean.
Think about your career… There’ll be brilliant moments such as promotions and pay-rises, and bits you’d sooner forget such as difficult colleagues or the tedium of annual reviews. And coming full circle, for all your mums out there – it’s a complete rollercoaster, right? Constant ups and downs. Intense love coupled with a strong urge to throttle someone, often within the same minute.
So, where does this leave us? It comes back to the point I made in my instagram post: We need to focus on the positives. Notice the good. Pause to relish the happy times.
So you can swing a 12kg kettlebell now instead of a 10kg? Great!
No longer leaking every time you sneeze? Definitely winning!
Toddler no longer in nappies? Hallelujah!
It’s easy to say “this too shall pass” when we’re referring to the tough times, but it’s important to be aware that the natural ebb and flow of life means the good bits will stop too, and a new phase will enter. I’m not being all doom and gloom, rather I’m encouraging you to notice when things are better. Be grateful. Smile.
As I said in my post, I know my son won’t fall asleep on me that often anymore (it used to be the only place he’d sleep and at the time that drove me mad). In my work, I know that all clients – even the really long term ones – eventually move on. In my life, I know that great friends move away. So I’m taking immense joy in those sleepy cuddles, the amazing women that I work with, and the times when I get to catch up with some of my oldest friends.
I think it’s unwise to suggest anyone should “cherish EVERY moment” but we should all stop and cherish the lovely moments when they arise.
Oh, and in case you’re interested, here’s the link to the ‘no-abs’ ab exercises.